I recently completed my Level 2 training for Internal Family Systems therapy (there are 3 levels). The focus on the training was on depression, anxiety, and shame; we also explored topics such as grief, despair, and phobias. At the end of the training, I shared with the group a feeling that it was not an ending so much as it was a launch – I am returning to my days of therapy with an even greater sense of trust in this process and its potential for healing, and an expansion of creativity for applying this model of psychotherapy.

This approach to therapy changed my understanding of not only how to do therapy, but what therapy can do. In a deep way, learning to care for parts of ourselves opens up so many possibilities: to be more present, to get to know ourselves and those around us, and to allow and even welcome joy when it shows up in our lives. It’s gentle, too – we go slow, in building our internal relationship to parts of ourselves and past versions of ourselves, in order to go fast. We don’t just push past internal barriers and protective parts; we get to know them and work with them.

Every person has what they need to heal already inside them. That’s one other thing I love about IFS – that as a therapist, I’m a partner and a facilitator in the healing process, trusting the good intentions of all parts of you. I’m not an authority figure in a position of power over the client. We are exploring, together, and accessing the strengths you have inside you in order to heal, grow, and move forward with curiosity and appreciation for all parts of the self.