Managing Stress and Optimizing Wellness Workshop

We all face stress on a daily basis!  Take a look at the ways you cope with stress (and even think about stress) to improve your overall wellness.  Johanna will present information about the ways we view stress and how that can impact our experiences of wellness.  (Hint: it’s not always what you’d expect!).  She will also facilitate exploration of self-talk and strategies for turning off the “to-do” list. Start building a wellness plan that will last this autumn!

Saturday, October 1st, 10:30am-12:00pm

To sign up, call Johanna Bond, LMHC, NCC, at (585)406-3012, email jbondperspectives@gmail.com, or sign up in the office! Spots are limited.

Cost: $25

Location: 721 Ridge Road, Webster NY 14580

August’s Mindfulness Exercise

Mindfulness involves observing and accepting the things around and within us in the present moment, without judgment.  In therapy, Johanna may involve mindfulness skills to build awareness of various issues and to develop coping strategies.   The exercise below is not individualized to your needs as it may be in therapy, but is rather intended as a general exercise that you may find useful.

August’s mindfulness exercise:

Mindfulness is the nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment.  This month, we are going to observe our self-talk without judgment.  Take 5 minutes to spend in a quiet space by yourself.  Begin by breathing and start to notice your thoughts.  What are you telling yourself? How do you talk to yourself? Without judging your thoughts as good or bad, simply allow yourself to notice them.  If you’d like, you can also write them down. How do you feel emotionally as you do this exercise? How do you feel physically?  If you can, take this awareness into your day and pay attention to the way you talk to yourself, even after your 5 minutes are up.

NOTE: This is not intended to replace therapy.  Please contact Johanna at (585)406-3012 if you are interested in individual or group therapy.

Reading for Perspective Summer Edition

Johanna loves to share good books with her clients. Periodically, she will post here about a book that can be helpful as a part of the therapeutic process or just as good food for thought. If you’d like to join in “reading for perspective,” feel free to learn more about Johanna’s new favorite book below!

 

Brene Brown’s “Daring Greatly” shares some of her fantastic research and personal thoughts about what it means to dare greatly.  Brene Brown is a researcher and clinician who has spoken on TED talks and written books about shame and vulnerability.  In “Daring Greatly,” Brene writes about the idea of being wholehearted, which she describes as a way to use vulnerability as a catalyst for engaging in courage, compassion, and connection.  She writes about how vulnerability is NOT weakness, and how engaging in vulnerability allows us to develop genuine relationships.  She also writes about shame, and how we can build our shame resilience by recognizing it, checking in with whether it is accurate or not, and giving voice to the shame to keep from internalizing it or disengaging from those around us.  She shares the idea that daring greatly is not about success or failure, but more about having the courage to engage with the world in a vulnerable and genuine manner.

One idea that she touches on that can come up a lot in therapy is the idea that “you are enough.” Our society often teaches us that we must make a certain amount of money or achieve a certain goal in order to be happy or respected as “enough,” but Brene Brown writes that we are enough, just the way we are.

 

Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. New York, NY: Gotham Books.

NOTE: As always, if you find that you could use an outside perspective or are struggling emotionally, please call to set up an appointment at (585)406-3012. This book review is not intended to replace therapy.

June’s Mindfulness Exercise

Mindfulness involves observing and accepting the things around and within us in the present moment, without judgment.  In therapy, Johanna may involve mindfulness skills to build awareness of various issues and to develop coping strategies.   The exercise below is not individualized to your needs as it may be in therapy, but is rather intended as a general exercise that you may find useful.

June’s mindfulness exercise:

As last month’s exercise showed us, mindfulness is not always a quiet, passive observation.  Mindfulness can occur in conversation, and it can also occur in movement.  Today, turn on some music (the radio, a CD, Pandora, or however you get your tunes) and allow yourself to move to the music.  You may start by keeping the beat with your foot, and then if you like, allow the rest of your body to join in the dancing. (If anything causes pain, return to just tapping the beat). Notice what you’re doing physically, what thoughts you have, and how you feel emotionally. Try to observe without judging as good or bad. Try to dance for at least one song!

NOTE: This is not intended to replace therapy.  Please contact Johanna at (585)406-3012 if you are interested in individual or group therapy.

Upcoming Workshop: Mindful Journaling

Journaling for Mindfulness Workshop

Do you find that the summer is racing past? Are you on autopilot most of the time? Mindfulness is the nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment that has been found to have significant health benefits, and journaling is one way to practice mindfulness.  Come learn more about how you can use mindful skills and practice journaling exercises to help you reach your optimal wellness and get the most out of summer.

About Johanna Bond, LMHC, NCC: Johanna is a therapist in private practice at Perspectives Mental Health Counseling, PLLC, and a writer who blogs for Huffington Post and has written for the New York Times.

Saturday, July 16th, 10:30am-12:00pm

To sign up, call Johanna Bond, LMHC, NCC, at (585)406-3012, email jbondperspectives@gmail.com, or sign up next door at Goshorn Wellness! Spots are limited.

Cost: $25

Location: 721 Ridge Road, Webster NY 14580

 

First Day of Therapy?

When you come in for your first appointment, you may have concerns about what Johanna is thinking or you may have questions about what to expect.  In Johanna’s most recent Huffington Post blog (found here), she outlines a few thoughts that she would like you to know when you first walk in the door.  Please feel free to read this and share with others, whether you are a current client, potential client, or supporter of counseling.

March’s Mindfulness Exercise

Mindfulness is something that everyone can incorporate into daily life.  Mindfulness involves observing and accepting the things around and within us, without judgment.  In therapy, Johanna may involve mindfulness skills to build awareness of various issues and to develop coping strategies.   The exercise below is not individualized to your needs as it may be in therapy, but is rather intended as a general exercise that you may find useful.

March’s mindfulness exercise:

In Wegmans, every so often you may hear an announcement that “it’s time for a stretch break.”  How often do we give ourselves a stretch break?  This week, set a daily alarm for a time of day that you know you tend to be tense or act on autopilot.  Each day when the alarm goes off, take three deep breaths.  With each breath, stretch as you inhale (your arms, your back, or your legs – you pick) and relax as you exhale.  Pay attention to any thoughts or feelings that may come up within you as you complete this exercise.

NOTE: This is not intended to replace therapy.  Please contact Johanna at (585)406-3012 if you are interested in individual or group therapy.

Random Acts of Kindness Week

This week is Random Acts of Kindness week!  I love that the idea behind random acts of kindness is to simply go out of your way to do something kind for someone else, and to pay it forward when something kind is done for you.  It doesn’t have to be something big, grand, or even time-consuming – many acts of kindness involve a small gesture, such as a smile or kind compliment to another person.  You can find many ideas for random acts of kindness here if you have trouble thinking of some on your own.  A few of my favorites from this blog and others include:

  • Write something nice on a friend’s social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) or post a kind comment on a blog you follow
  • Compliment the next person you see
  • Say thank you to someone you may take for granted in your daily life
  • Call up a friend or family member just to say hi
  • Think of someone who has inspired you in your life, and thank him or her
  • Leave a bigger tip at a restaurant than usual
  • Buy a cup of coffee for the person behind you in line
  • Share a feel-good song or YouTube video with a friend
  • Ask someone how their day is going, and really listen
  • If you live with other people, do a chore you don’t usually do
  • Clean off someone else’s snowy car in a parking lot
  • Smile at someone you don’t know
  • Tell yourself something you like about yourself – you deserve kindness too!

Sleep Better in 2016

We’ve entered the new year, made our resolutions, and gotten back into a routine after the holidays.  How are your self-care routines going?  More specifically, how are you sleeping?

Here are a few things to consider that may help to improve your sleep in 2016.

-Are your bed and your bedroom comfortable?  Do you walk in and instantly associate the room with feelings of peacefulness?  If not, consider things like the temperature of the room and blankets, the lighting, the noise level, and what you use the room for.  Try to pick a couple of things to make changes and invest in your sleep space.  If you find that your bedroom is a multipurpose space (such as for watching television, doing work, or eating), consider moving these activities to another room or at least another piece of furniture other than the bed.

-Do you have a hard time turning off your “to do” list or worries at nighttime?  Try taking 5-10 minutes to think through, or even write down, your tasks and worries.  Do this before you even get ready for bed so that you have a buffer between your “worry time” and your sleep time.

-How do you prepare for bed?  I’m not just talking about brushing your teeth.  Think about what you do to wind down from the business of the day.  If you don’t have a pre-bedtime routine, try one out!  Take 20-30 minutes before bed to engage in something that is relaxing but won’t put you to sleep (you want to save that for when you get into bed).  This pre-bedtime routine could include stretching, reading, taking a bath, or another calming activity.

As always, don’t hesitate to call Johanna with questions or to schedule an appointment at (585)406-3012 if you’d like to explore this topic more.

Inspirational Blogs to Start Your Year

As you start the new year, do you find yourself looking for motivation online?  New to the “Resources” page, I’ve compiled a list of useful Wellness Blogs for you to check out.  I’ve listed them below as well.  Staples include the NYT Well Blog, Huffington Post’s Healthy Living page, and MindBodyGreen for mental health and physical health inspiration.  Tiny Buddha comes from a Buddhist perspective and provides some great insight on mindful practices, and The Blue Room is written by a Christian pastor who has published on reflective practices like taking time for family and self-care.  Hallowed Be Thy Home is focused on the house as well as living locally and practicing green living, and Daily Cup of Yoga focuses on living well through yoga practice.  Enjoy!

New York Times Well Blog

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/

Huffington Post Healthy Living Blog

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/healthy-living/

MindBodyGreen

http://www.mindbodygreen.com

Tiny Buddha

http://tinybuddha.com/

The Blue Room

https://theblueroomblog.org/

Hallowed Be Thy Home

http://www.hallowedbethyhome.com

Daily Cup of Yoga

http://www.dailycupofyoga.com/